A Dating Diaries Adventure: My 12 Dates of Christmas

I’ve always wanted to star in a chick flick. Wait, that’s not quite right. I’ve always wanted my life to be a chick flick. Yeah, that’s the one.

Don’t look at me like that. You know you’ve thought the same thing. I mean, come on, hunky leading men, humor, romance, and just the perfect amount of drama. Sounds dreamy, right?

A couple of years ago I discovered the magic of made for TV Christmas movies. And by “discovered the magic,” I mean “got completely sucked into them to the point that I lost virtually all productivity during the month of December.” Since then I haven’t just wanted to star in a chick flick, I’ve wanted to star in a Christmas chick flick.

The other day I watched a movie called 12 Dates of Christmas. Think Groundhog Day, then make it a chick flick, add in a Christmas theme and some cheesy lines, and you get the gist of it. Needless to say, I LOVED it!

This gave me the idea to do my own 12 Dates of Christmas experiment. The big difference being that instead of reliving the same date over and over, I decided I wanted my version to involve me going on 12 dates with 12 different guys, most of whom would be strangers, and then blogging about what happens. Sounds easy enough, right?

I knew I had to move fast to line up the dates, so I did what any normal person would do . . . I turned to Facebook.

Friends responded and shared my request, slots began to fill up (I still have a couple of openings if anyone is interested), and I started getting nervous and excited for this little adventure. It became quickly apparent that I needed to set some ground rules for myself. Here’s what I came up with:

12 Dates of Christmas Ground Rules

(Sounds official, right?)

Rule #1: No Facebook stalking before the date.

That’s right, I’m going into these things as blindly as possible. You know how it is, someone wants to set you up on a date, so you go stalk the person on Facebook. When you see one bad picture of them you start to rule them out and make up stories about how they’re not for you and they probably kick puppies in their spare time. No? Just me? Hmmmm.

Anyway, I want to go into the dates with as few preconceived notions as possible. Hence, the less I know, the better. I’m just trusting that no one is setting me up with a serial killer or anything crazy.


Rule #2: No setting the date up for failure.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand that the best dating stories come from dates that go horribly awry. Even so, I’m not going to set these guys up for embarrassment or anything of the sort. I’m just going to let the dates unfold however they do. Don’t worry, with me on the date there are guaranteed to be plenty of awkward moments, but those just come naturally. I’m not going to purposely make the date go badly.


Rule #3: 

Apparently I was only able to come up with two rules.


Well, my first date is tomorrow, so stay tuned for the recap and to see where this little adventure takes me. And thanks in advance to the guys who have stepped up to be a part of this. This is going to be fun. I promise.



  1. Melanie,

    How many dates have you setup to go badly? Starting to rethink asking you out ;). I mean sure you won’t do it tomorrow but what if we go out 4 more times… lol you have to admit the way you worded #2 is a bit awkward for long term dating relationships.

    If you tell me you like cats on the date, I’ll probably not understand what your really saying (Dating Diaries Ep 2). You see I’ll probably get excited and say something like I cared for my sister’s cat Kiki, she pronounced kitty as Kiki so the name stuck as it was cute. He, meaning Kiki, slept on my pillow next to my head for a few years. He also left me freshly killed mice. Oh the best part is when he would crunch on them under the bed, yum yummy!

    What I mean is that ladies who own cats don’t scare me, so you’ll probably use something a bit more aggressive like “buy me lots of diamonds”. To which I would reply “I haven’t even proposed yet”. Wow yeah that won’t work either. You know lets brain storm tomorrow evening about how to scare me away.

    I think your 3rd rule should be that your readers get to choose who your final 12th date is ;). You have enough marketing savvy to write convince your readers of the right choice; so what are you worried about.

    Also please feel free to correct my view of our 1st phone call as I recall it. You’ll notice I recapped it below.

    Readers of Melanie’s Blog,

    Oh and she is right about being awkward you guys. When I called her on the phone she had wondering what kind of work she would need to be doing from home that would include organizing her girls. I don’t exactly remember her wording but, wow that one was awkward. She also mentioned something about dating people, which also had me thinking ummm… “guys and dolls (good play BTW) are both people”.

    Both of these awkward moments happened in 15 minutes of just talking to her on phone for the 1st time. I honestly am super pumped to see what she’ll say in the 5 hours we’ll be together tomorrow evening on our date.

    Thankfully she made some videos on this great website that let me know she doesn’t really have that high of expectations (Dating Diaries Ep 3) . She wants a guy (1 point) and he needs to be breathing (1 point). I guess 2 points total means I am date worthy. Which really helped clear up the whole issue with dating “people”, I hope.

    1. I remember when you did your 27 dates in 27 days before your 27th birthday. That was actually part of the inspiration behind this. See, you inspire people without even knowing it. 🙂

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